My main problem was my relationship with my mother and the effects it was having on all areas of my life. I was struggling with low self-esteem, poor boundaries, and bouts of painful depression and anxiety. I found I still used alcohol to alleviate difficult feelings, and hadn’t completely mastered how to self-soothe and regulate. I’ve tried everything from talking therapy, 12 step groups, CBT, and holistic therapy. Although this all helped me with greater self-awareness, it really didn’t address my relationship with my mum. I found I kept returning to self-destructive patterns, and really struggling to keep boundaries in place because I hadn’t addressed this core wound. My biggest aha moment was when I started to see who my mum actually is rather than who I want her to be. I also started to realise that the only person who can advocate for me is me and the only person who can advocate for my healing is me. It’s really sunk in that I’m the one who is responsible for my healing and no-one else and as a result, I’ve find I’ve been able to transform the relationship I have with myself! I think the first part is really getting to understand how your nervous system has been impacted by chronic stress caused by hyper vigilance from your childhood as well as unprocessed trauma. And then beginning to really understand what you childhood actually was like, and what your relationship was like when you were a child into young adult. Having the group is a huge eye opener because you can validate and support each other, when we have been taught to second guess ourselves constantly. This work has really changed something in me at the core. I really have started to understand where some habits and patterns come from, but most importantly I’ve felt like I been able to transform the relationship I have with myself. The most important relationship of all! - C.O.

Ruth understands your position and is your ally. No matter what stage you’re in of your process, you will be supported and feelings validated

I had been no contact with my mother for over a year before joining THDP, but I was still experiencing shame, fear, and isolation in my everyday life. Problem solving and self regulating when my mother would attempt contact was particularly difficult. I have been in therapy for a few years which has been incredibly helpful overall for my mental health, but I felt what was missing in my life was a community who shares similar family background and struggles. Before joining THDP and working with Ruth, I still frequently questioned my reality and felt like my friends wouldn’t truly understand so I had nowhere to share authentically. Recognizing how the patterns of abuse and triggers from my family repeat themselves in my life and hold me back was really powerful. I recently gained the courage to decide to leave a toxic job to start my own business doing what I love. I never would have had the self awareness and courage to even consider that option before THDP. Now I am confident with setting boundaries and tapping in to my needs instead of acting out of obligation to others. Ruth and the group of daughters in THDP are some of the most compassionate and supportive people I have ever met. We vent, problem solve together, dive deep into learning about and healing our trauma, do somatic work and self soothing exercises, and even share our wins so that we can celebrate each other. It feels like a group of daughters walking alongside you on your journey rather than preaching about where you should get to. I am so grateful for this community. I know that the journey of healing never truly ends, but I actually feel like I’m in control now and I love having the support system to lift me up when I need it. - Anonymous

Ruth created a safe space for me to learn, process, and start healing from what I now recognize as childhood narcissistic and emotional abuse. In this course I’ve connected with other women with similar stories and struggles. The validation and community support became the safe space I needed to dig deeper and start reflecting on my true emotions and baggage. Ruth will give you the knowledge, tools, and support you need as you work through recognition, acceptance, self-protecting boundaries, and healing. After MANY years of reading books, seeing therapists, and trying to desperately understand my mother’s dysfunction and continued emotional hold on me; it is this course that put me on a road to organized and gently accountable healing. I’m rising above the unhealthy relationships my childhood created and ensuring I break this cycle for my own children. It’s truly a gift I’m giving myself and future generations. THANK YOU RUTH!

Step by step guide that adds clarity and hope for daughters like me. Very comprehensive and well-researched. Takes away the victimhood and gives the power back to us. The boundaries exercise was extremely helpful. Also, I learned a lot about how trauma evolved into repression and how it impacts my relationships with others and how I see the world. Was delivered with a lot of compassion/. I thought a knew a lot about this subject matter, but I was able to see the trees from the forest and learned even more about myself

It listed the areas I know I need to work on (boundary setting, working through repressed memories and shame). It’s been helpful learning from someone who truly understands narcissist mothers and won’t try to push to heal the relationship (like some therapists might who don’t understand or haven’t experienced this type of person)

Biggest challenge: Individuation & Setting Boundaries, Feeling: heavily enmeshed, trapped, true self buried never to be exposed & fully realized in this lifetime. The Healing Daughters Society helped me to become my own person. It validated my feelings and showed me that there was much more to life than being trapped under my mother's spell. I have learned how to set boundaries, safely & effectively. I have so much more confidence In who I am & what my needs are now. I have been taught that my feelings are valid and I am worthy of healthy relationships. THDS was a crucial part in my journey to self soothing, emotional regulation, and nervous system regulation. I have learned so much in this course & the group community, I am forever grateful. And I'm only halfway through! This is an investment in yourself. Your future self. And you commitment to help heal your past self. Ruth is like a big sister sharing so much of her knowledge and personal experience to help walk you through every step of the way. You will not regret it! I am so incredibly grateful to Ruth & THDS. Her course has been an absolutely life changing for me, and I am so looking forward to continuing on this journey to healing.

Biggest challenge:Dealing with guilt and people pleasing Feeling: Like I had to always do what others wanted me to do and guilty if I disappointed people and then resentment/entrapment to not have my own opinions respected. After joining THDS I feel empowered like I have choices now to explore what I want. I’m learning to attune to my needs and heal my nervous system which was always on high alert. I’m able to reflect on what I’m actually feeling and then take steps to mother myself and take care of my needs. Don’t hesitate! You won’t regret taking this leap to grow personally and leave the past behind.Ruth is a genuine person who cares about her clients. Having a group who you can share your background with, who you can relate to and support each other is invaluable.

My anxiety was my biggest challenge to overcome. Feeling like I was all over the place with my thoughts and emotions. I did not have awareness of my body and self.It made me feel really stressed.I have a better control of my emotions and my anxiety. I accepted the place I am in and continue to push myself to grow more and be my best self. I enjoy the present and prepare for more improvement.Understanding how to manage my triggers and understand the root of my trauma has been an awakening experience. I have a better understanding of myself and my needs. I have started to realize how to love myself and how to give myself grace. I’m being more confident just by getting to know myself and following healthy habits.Please do it. Not only is Ruth so supportive but she really has a gift. She will be understanding and know exactly what to say and how to help you.I love this program and support system. It has really helped me on my journey. I finally feel like I’m on my way out of survival mode.

Biggest challenge: Just not understanding my mother and her complete lack of a desire to have a relationship. Feeling: Unworthy. Finally finding the answers and the research Ruth collected and put together answered so many questions & there was no shame or belittling in the learning aspect of maternal narcissism. Very inclusive and loving group. Realizing I am not the problem & my mom had a disease . Narcissism is very serious and coming to terms with the fact that she will. Dive in !!!! Ruth’s classes are phenomenal a balm for your broken heart. Such a great group & class & so healing to know I was never alone in that type of abuse & that their is a way out.

Biggest challenge: confusion. Feeling: Lost and stuck in a cycle. I feel little by little I have started to gain clarity of my life. Clarity about how and why my life is how it is Clarity about things that were not right about the way I was raised Clarity about why I do and react the way I do How emotions affect my physical body. To give yourself the gift of joining at least for 1 month .... nada que perder y mucho que ganar!Este programa a darme la claridad y el apoyo que necesitaba!